tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post8116341607278235528..comments2024-03-06T22:56:55.030-06:00Comments on A Gathering Place: ~WHEN DOES SAVING BECOME HOARDING?~Rebecca Nelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14662129266792835433noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-34916867450958905622010-10-01T22:06:11.731-05:002010-10-01T22:06:11.731-05:00It has more about our age and why do we have all t...It has more about our age and why do we have all this stuff? <br />My boys aren't going to want it.<br />Love ya,<br />Ileyileyssilverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14110117078403207079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-58305849606495032482010-09-30T13:11:02.204-05:002010-09-30T13:11:02.204-05:00Ive seen those shows as well Rebecca.It kinda made...Ive seen those shows as well Rebecca.It kinda made me sick.Its actually a disease.....people hoard some much they cant live in their own space.They actually go throguh treatment to help them stop hoarding.<br /><br />Anyway I know Im not a hoarder.I have many many cards I kept over the years of the girls birthdays and communions etc.I even have a big box where I ahve my birthday cards as well.I always loved keeping cards but I find now Im not into that much as I get reminders at birthdays of my age ha.<br /><br />Happy weekend ahead!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-64708122379407811512010-09-29T21:41:36.260-05:002010-09-29T21:41:36.260-05:00I too have come across this show and I too know a ...I too have come across this show and I too know a person who does exactly this. I was shocked when I visited my best friend after not seeing her for many many years. I was amazed how every surface was covered. I felt so uncomfortable I had to get out of there. I wondered, could this happen to me? I too save cards and letters and will hold on to them forever. Like my husband has said, I save and collect but I also know what to get rid of too. So save those cards! It is A-OK! KitKithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17821207596562393224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-56180477823154649082010-09-29T20:12:27.013-05:002010-09-29T20:12:27.013-05:00A great and loving post..... I love cards too and...A great and loving post..... I love cards too and can't part with any of them.<br />When David's mother died a few years ago, we found every card any family member or friend had given her over her 80 some odd years..... We each took the cards we'd sent her, and it was such a good feeling to read them again....<br /><br />I love watching the show about hoarders...... it blows me away that people can live in such filth.... sad. <br />Hugs,Doloreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13532665442199865950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-85701426127326929992010-09-29T17:11:11.957-05:002010-09-29T17:11:11.957-05:00Sweet Rebecca, saving love letters is romantic, an...Sweet Rebecca, saving love letters is romantic, and nostalgic. Not hoarding!! These are treasure your family will be so thrilled you saved. How wonderful to re-read memories from your earlier days!! KEEP THEM!! :-)Home and Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02903206414255201889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-432495112576405442010-09-29T17:00:51.774-05:002010-09-29T17:00:51.774-05:00hoarding is very emotional and a person may need s...hoarding is very emotional and a person may need some help professionally. hoarders keep everything, not just collecting as a hobby. we had a relative who kept everything including paper cups. keeping something for a sentimal connection is different. i like the idea of a journa or scrapebook. Why do we wait until someone dies in the family before we pass it on, might consider doing this now. this way a personal talk with that person about the item can give it extra significance roseRosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06889643640183918872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-1605415897693358272010-09-29T11:32:26.985-05:002010-09-29T11:32:26.985-05:00Hi Rebecca,
I have watched this show, and I am ju...Hi Rebecca,<br /><br />I have watched this show, and I am just in shock to see how some of them live. I do have a lot of sentimental stuff, including cards.<br />I have saved little notes too that the kids have written to me. I even have some of their outfits, and shoes from when they were babies. I am always sending stuff to the goodwill though. I lovethe idea too of the journals.<br /><br />DebbiePink Roses and Teacupshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07292534447306279495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-41076587762621274782010-09-29T10:53:22.556-05:002010-09-29T10:53:22.556-05:00Oh Rebecca.... I'm re-doing my sewing room (s...Oh Rebecca.... I'm re-doing my sewing room (soon to be called the studio, just because it sounds sooo much better) right now and pitching so many things I really don't need. Things are pretty darn small here at the cottage...and I can't stand messy.... But, I know for sure that next week I'll need one or two of the things I've pitched. :-) <br /><br />I keep every single little snippet, letter or card that somebody's written to me. I figure in my old age I'll sit and re-read them alllll.... I don't think that's all that far away. I have some from my parents.... both gone now... and my grandparents... Such sweet words and I'm so happy to have them.<br /><br />Huggies!<br />Spencer{Bellamere Cottage}https://www.blogger.com/profile/17808685184476519297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-7207727788545336812010-09-29T07:03:11.167-05:002010-09-29T07:03:11.167-05:00LOVE YOUR BLOG.. I KEEP MY CARDS ALSO,, BUT I GO B...LOVE YOUR BLOG.. I KEEP MY CARDS ALSO,, BUT I GO BACK AND WRITE IN THE CARDS OF HOW MUCH I LOVE THEM... AND WHEN I DIE THE KIDS WILL FIND THEM,,, AND MAYBE KNOW HOW MUCH I DO LOVE THEM... MY SON... NOT MARRIED OR HAVE CHILDREN.. SO HE WILL TREASURE THE CARDS I WRITE IN ,,FOR HIM... THANKS LOHOMAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-41291047079063413242010-09-28T23:53:06.646-05:002010-09-28T23:53:06.646-05:00Such an important post...I hate to think of the mo...Such an important post...I hate to think of the money I've wasted buying stuff that sits in closets tightly packed. You've inspired me to pare down and only keep the treasured and useful (hopefully they are one and the same). PattyPattyhttp://sewingseedscraftylife.typepad.com/sewingseedsthoughts-an/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-5566064964289194642010-09-28T23:46:20.416-05:002010-09-28T23:46:20.416-05:00I too save cards from my family as well as numerou...I too save cards from my family as well as numerous other things - but I know I'm not a hoarder - I can still walk around my house.<br /><br />As a crafter - I always felt as soon as you throw something away - your going to need it. So while I don't keep trash, per say - I do keep many things so I can recycle them into something artistic.<br />Opps! maybe I am a hoarder them - just a neat, organized hoarder.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />PennyPellie / Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16528703820943252311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-49643221848747852742010-09-28T22:42:00.307-05:002010-09-28T22:42:00.307-05:00Hi Rebecca,
I saw this show for the first time a ...Hi Rebecca,<br /><br />I saw this show for the first time a couple months ago with my daughter....I could not watch the whole program. It was so so sad! My heart breaks for anyone having such a horrible problem living in piles of filth; especially for these homes with children!<br /><br />My sister somewhat has the problem...but it is not filth. She buys new things...many expensive items...then leaves them in the bag and stacks them in her rooms. She is going through a divorce now bec her husband can't deal with it. She is purging ALL the stuff...selling them in garage sales, etc. But it has been heart-breaking for her to learn the hard way to kick an extremely bad habit of shopping just to be shopping. :(<br /><br />I too love all of my sweet cards and letters from my loved ones. I don't feel the need to sort and purge them yet. Maybe once the sweet notes and cards start coming from my granddaughters, maybe then I will get more than I can handle. :) I do know that when I lost my mother to Alzeheimer's, it was such a comfort going through each letter, note, and card that I gave to her that she thought it to be of value to keep.<br /><br />Hugs, Carolyn ~ Cottage SunshineCarolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04812909403595609682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-90682927878915553372010-09-28T21:21:19.157-05:002010-09-28T21:21:19.157-05:00If I ever thought about keeping too much of my &qu...If I ever thought about keeping too much of my "stuff", sorting through my mother's house for the last year since her death has cured me of that! She was a closet hoarder. You know, every closet, cabinet, drawer was packed full. It's been overwhelming and we're still at it. It has cured me big time! I NEVER want my children to have to go through what my brother and I are.<br />Nice weather we're having here in Oklahoma, huh? Finally!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02361031695414907694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-61520850738391443612010-09-28T21:01:31.270-05:002010-09-28T21:01:31.270-05:00I only keep cards with notes written in them, not,...I only keep cards with notes written in them, not, "To the best Mom" It has to have a paragraph or 2. Now about the show! Some of these people just seem messy, and lazy, some truly have a problem, but I wonder where one leaves off and lazy starts! How great to be lazy and then label yourself with an illness??? I would love to know the answer!<br /><br />CarolThe Polka Dot Closethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04509900941899875184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-16991488066949935872010-09-28T19:41:18.905-05:002010-09-28T19:41:18.905-05:00You are right, Rebecca-there is quite a fine line ...You are right, Rebecca-there is quite a fine line between collecting something and obsessively coveting it. Those shows just really weird me out and you just wonder how it ever got to the point it did.<br /><br />I do believe it is a sickness that needs to be treated just like any other addictive illness. It is just so sad to me how THINGS can come before family relationships. I think that happens sometimes even on a more minor level with WANTING that which we don't really need and dragging it home in spite of spouses saying...NOT ONE MORE...whatever.<br /><br />Okay...that's just me- Thanks for shining the light on this subject today- Hugs- DianaNanaDianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14298962791700019785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-48928643577170681932010-09-28T19:37:25.256-05:002010-09-28T19:37:25.256-05:00Hi Rebecca, You talked about your cards. When we m...Hi Rebecca, You talked about your cards. When we moved my mother-in-law into an apartment from a three bedroom home, we had an auction. we had scrapbooks filled with old cards, postcards, and etc. I was amazed how much they sold for that was for sure. I tried to watch the show once and it wasn't something I wanted to see. We are all quilty of keeping somethings that maybe we should give away. My problem is finding the time to do some of the things I want to do. I work full-time and am a primary caregiver, which doesn't leave a lot of me time to do other things. My kids still like to look at the scrapbooks we have left because of the precious memories with both sets of grandparents now deceased. Have a great day. Your Missouri Friend.Shirleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06648865214694535566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-58744150113411131782010-09-28T19:21:15.707-05:002010-09-28T19:21:15.707-05:00Rebecca,
would you please do a favor for me? Plea...Rebecca, <br />would you please do a favor for me? Please visit my blog and take a look at teh mirror I painted. I have had several ladies comment on how they think I could sell it for, 'big bucks'. Just how many bucks is mig bucks? I'm new to this refurbishing furniture thing. Would you please comment in my blog comments section on how much you think I could charge for it?<br />Thank you!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04593860335824008512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-82338227113744008112010-09-28T18:58:22.385-05:002010-09-28T18:58:22.385-05:00I LOVE your idea about the Journals, Patti! Now t...I LOVE your idea about the Journals, Patti! Now this is something I wish I had started long ago! What fabulous keepsake books your loved ones will have one day...xoRRebecca Nelsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14662129266792835433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-48516462963913716532010-09-28T18:45:05.678-05:002010-09-28T18:45:05.678-05:00I do believe I could be a hoarder of some things. ...I do believe I could be a hoarder of some things. Lace and old fabric just gets me going. I have bins (about four) full of the stuff. I know I cannot get rid of it. I just hope some day I will be able to have the time to make the things I have in my mind.<br />That show really gets me thinking and I love it! I think I NEED to watch it. I go shopping now, and I think about things twice before I buy, and I think I have the show to thank for it. And I stay OUT of dollar stores!!!<br />I LOVED this post.<br />HugsJunehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17283259375743586344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-49965611804150457852010-09-28T18:15:03.541-05:002010-09-28T18:15:03.541-05:00I tuned in to watch these shows for the first time...I tuned in to watch these shows for the first time about a year ago, I was shocked by the stories and the messy lives of each of the people on the shows! It worked for the good in my husband and I, we got rid of a bunch of stuff on Craigslist, made over $10,000 dollars on furniture, a boat and just stuff we had laying around, I have been moved not to keep anything I don't LOVE either...I feel like this show will make you rethink your life, measure it up to these truly ill people and change for the better! I am not a hoarder, but the lessons can be applied to any ones life, a collector can turn into a hoarder in a blink of an eye if we don't keep our eyes fixed on Jesus and what life is really all about...<br /><br />Great post Rebecca! Thanks!Donna Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10199541594618454494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-45392612926664388412010-09-28T17:57:12.775-05:002010-09-28T17:57:12.775-05:00Here's what I did about twelve years ago in or...Here's what I did about twelve years ago in order to cut down on the amount of cards I was keeping. I do this with each of my kids and with my husband. I have what is called a "love journal". Instead of a card, I write in each child's journal...no reason notes, thank you for a good job notes, happy birthday, graduation, etc. They, in turn, use the same journal and write notes to me...birthday, Mother's Day, encouragement, no reason, etc. <br /><br />I do the same thing with my husband...anniversary, Valentine's Day, Father's Day, birthday, etc., and he writes in the same journal back to me. So, the journals are love journals between me and whomever. <br /><br />After so many years, I am on my second journal each...but it has kept the card pile to a minimum...at least between the four of us. <br /><br />And I only keep other's cards if they actually have a lovely handwritten note in them. If they simply sign their name...out goes the card, as there is nothing sentimental or inspirational in that.<br /><br />On another note, I have watched the Hoarders show before, and I truly don't think that having nice things (even alot of them) neatly displayed makes one a hoarder.<br /><br />Blessings to you, sweet friend.<br /><br />Love,<br />PattiPatti https://www.blogger.com/profile/12931836399684850729noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-6930021920790484142010-09-28T16:50:06.121-05:002010-09-28T16:50:06.121-05:00Beck...
I saw that show with the lady from your t...Beck...<br /><br />I saw that show with the lady from your town and wondered if you knew her...<br /><br />The thing I remember about that particular show was the broken rake head....that she didn't want to throw it out because she saw people decorate with them. The poor guy trying to talk her into putting it in the trash pile finally hung it on the wall in her kitchen to prove a point. There it hung, just as it was. It was absolutely hilarious!<br /><br />I watch that hoarding show once a week to keep me in check. Dad was definitely a bit of a hoarder - don't you think? (He sure did love those tape recorders and coffee pots!)<br /><br />I can easily get out of control with stuff and 'some day' project items if I'm not careful. <br /><br />I save all my cards (and emails...) We are so much alike in so many ways!<br /><br />Looking forward to your visit!<br /><br />Love you, LinLinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-20931880887873385052010-09-28T16:47:46.312-05:002010-09-28T16:47:46.312-05:00Like you I have saved greeting cards, especially f...Like you I have saved greeting cards, especially from my children. I will NOT part with them. I even have cards from both my grandmothers, they are so special to me. <br />I was in Edmond today getting my mammogram and almost called you to meet me for lunch but thought you might be busy. We will plan a get together.<br />Hugs<br />GingerGingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08225999576749239218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-68796159349176063132010-09-28T16:47:31.297-05:002010-09-28T16:47:31.297-05:00Like you I have saved greeting cards, especially f...Like you I have saved greeting cards, especially from my children. I will NOT part with them. I even have cards from both my grandmothers, they are so special to me. <br />I was in Edmond today getting my mammogram and almost called you to meet me for lunch but thought you might be busy. We will plan a get together.<br />Hugs<br />GingerGingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08225999576749239218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1934579070684149103.post-82584195315731722722010-09-28T16:30:27.973-05:002010-09-28T16:30:27.973-05:00Dear Rebecca
I think we have have a bit of Hoardin...Dear Rebecca<br />I think we have have a bit of Hoarding in us..I have realized I have way too many treasures now that we are thinking of downsizing to a condo! My mother saved every doll I ever had so I come by it honestly..take care and have a great rest of the week!<br />xx<br />WandaVictorian1885https://www.blogger.com/profile/03215024946522768901noreply@blogger.com