Wednesday, January 21, 2009

LIVING THE ROMANCE

I love romance. I really do. But not the kind generated by the so-called “Hallmark Holiday's” where you find tons of manufactured sentiments on cheaply printed paper. I like the real stuff.

My husband was a straight “A” student all through college. You know… the really smart analytical kind. The sort of guy who spent most of his “spare time” studying in the library or working one of two jobs (three, four?) which paid his way through school. Save for his deep love for the clarinet and classical music, one would rarely find him far from the math and computer books that surrounded him on a daily basis. He was known to barter with his professors to avoid creative writing assignments (who in their right mind would willingly write a term paper vs. a short story?) and could (and would) debate you on the techno-babble beliefs of the day. He was a rational thinker and a doer and a giver…and always a gentleman.

Now, I am not so logical in my thoughts as that man of mine! Never was and never will be. I’m the creative half of the relationship and together we have long since found comfort in our diverse, yet accommodating marital roles. I’m louder, more outspoken and even sometimes hard-to-please. He on the other hand is more obliging, a more private a person, a kinder, gentler soul. And in thirty years of marriage I’ve only seen him really cry three times…

So, it was nothing short of un-predictable and certainly unexpected, when on my birthday last December he read aloud and in the presence of my family, a lengthy poem which he had penned celebrating my fifty years of life on this earth. Far too personal to make public, he spoke of his deep and lasting love for this “overly sentimental, mind-ever-changing, slightly hard-headed” gal of his. I was stunned…overcome…quiet even.

Not since the birth of our two children had I witnessed such tenderness, such romance. The offering, still so fresh that it’s sweetness will forever transcend the fabricated sentiments he's sent to me during our long and satisfying marriage…

Valentine's Day is three weeks away and I’m looking forward to some special time with my beloved. This year I’m going to skip the manufactured greeting and turn in the direction of home for my inspiration. I don’t need to look far to find a devoted example of the One who does ‘immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine’.

Blessings…Rebecca

8 comments:

English Cottage in Georgia said...

What a beautiful post!
I will bet that your "not creative" husband did not have a difficult time penning a poem. His source and inspiration were your and his relationship :-)

Anonymous said...

That is ever so touching. xo rachel

Anonymous said...

AAaaahhh... ~r`..Sniff...sniff...Ever soo touching again, and yes, you've found the best kind of romance, and that is "homemade",most of the times our blessings surround us daily, we just need to look around, and open our eyes and hearts..How truly blessed you are..Keep your eyes and heart heavenward..You so bless me ..Big Big hugs..~t~xo

My Pink & Cream Cottage said...

What a beautiful post, it really has put a smile on my face. My Darlin' & I have been married 17 years & although he is not a romantic (not a romantic bone in his body to be honest) a day does not go by that he does not show me how much I mean to him. This is my second marriage & I feel I am just so lucky to have found such a wonderful man.
You's really does sound like *a match made in heaven*.
Have been waiting & waiting for you to start your blog, like all your beautiful creations its great.

Lyn xxx

Anonymous said...

How beautiful, you made me tear up! It sounds like Jeff and I, these are the best marriages and hopefully the ones that last forever, we have been married 21 yrs and together for 25. Thanks so much for visiting and your comments on my kitchen, I have posted about it and you can go through my archives, I don't want to bore anyone with those pic again, LOL. Good luck with your renovation and I will chaeck back to see how it is coming along, I didn't have the money to demo mine, I just used paint and a little beadboard to update it some(;
Hugs~Kelly

Infarrantly Creative said...

First of all you are an amazing writer. Second of all I love to hear sweet things about your hubby after all those years of marriage.

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Anonymous said...

That's really beautiful...as is your website.

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