Wednesday, April 21, 2010

~SOME DAYS NEVER COME...Living Your Dreams~

 ~SUMMER 1959~
Mom & Me, Gramma, Linda & Great G

In the summer of 2008 my beautiful Grandmother spent an entire month with me here at my La Chaumiere de Briarwood.  It had been years and years since I'd been able to truly enjoy her company and having her here in my home for more than just a couple of days helped me reconnect with her in a very special way.  
 ~SUMMER 2006~
Mom, Linda, Adrienne, Gramma & Me

My Grams and I had deep conversations about all sorts of things.  Because she had long been blinded by Glaucoma we spent many an afternoon either listening to books on tape or swapping out stories from my childhood.  She had always been a loving grandmother, quiet and calm by nature and never once did I ever hear her yell...  OK...maybe a couple of times~like when she was chasing my big sister Linda and I with the flyswatter for misbehavin' or it MIGHT have been most certainly was when I carved my name into her brand new coffee table when I was 8... :(.
~SUMMER 2008~
Miss K, Gramma, Me (with Mollie) and Adrienne

A few days before she was to return to California I sat next to her in my living room while my Mr. AGPMan snapped pictures and video taped us chatting away...  I snuggled up next to her and we laughed and laughed for the longest time.  I once again felt like I was ten years old.  Grams just had a way of making everything in life feel fine.

It was during that conversation, my last with her before her passing that following November, that I would ask her about her life's journey and if she had any regrets about the choices she had made along the way...

Even with her dark shades covering up her shuttered eyes I could tell she was gazing off into the distance.  She answered soft and low but with little emotion...that was her way.   Her response, like everything else she ever said to me, was pure and honest.
~AGING HANDS~
Gramma & Me - 2009

"I would never have used the word SOMEDAY " she said.

"SOMEDAY never comes!  It doesn't!!!  Life is short and you don't want to wake up and be 91 and blind and not be able to do all the things you put off while waiting for that SOMEDAY to arrive!"

~*~

I dreamed about my Grandmother last night.  I miss her more than I can tell you. Wanna know what she said to me during my slumber?

Can you guess?

"The clock is ticking, Becky!  Best be livin' out your SOMEDAY while you still have time!"

 Blessings...

31 comments:

joanne said...

beautifull story. Wonderful advice, if only we could remember how precious and fleeting this all is then we wouldn't need someday. Thanks for the reminder Rebecca...Blessings to you too!

Dorthe said...

A beautifull post, Rebecca,
full of wonderfull advice and love, and the photoes you share must be very presius to you.
Thanks dear.
Hugs Dorthe

debbie said...

DEAR REBECCA,
BEAUTIFUL PICTURES AND ISN'T IT WONDERFUL THAT YOUR GRANDMOTHER CAN SEE AGAIN AND WILL FOREVER AND EVER...NO MORE GLAUCOMA...I HOPE AMY HAS MET HER.
I THINK THAT WAS RATHER A POWERFUL STATEMENT......IS THERE SOMETHING YOU HAVE ALWAYS WANTED TO DO JUST FOR FUN...YOU WORK SO HARD....I USE TO DO PROJECTS AND ONCE I GOT STARTED I WAS SO ANXIOUS TO GET THEM DONE. ONE OF THESE DAYS I WILL SHOCK EVERYONE WHEN I POST SOMETHING I HAVE DONE...LOL
LOVE YOU GIRLIE
SIMPLY DEBBIE

Lori Katies Rose Cottage said...

Oh Rebecca ~ What a beautiful beautiful post that has tears streaming down my face ~ Thoughts of my precious grandma and great grandma so fondly in my mind ~
Our time with them is fleeting and something that we need to treasure ~
xoxo
Lori

Marydon Ford said...

.. and Grandmother couldn't have been more wise in her words, Rebecca.

G'morn, sweet friend ~ Have a beautiful & blessed day ... I will finish my cup o'tea & go do exactly as Grandmother said ...

Beautiful write ...
Hugs, Marydon

Marlene said...

Precious story, Precious advise, thank you.

C'est Moi, Julie Marie said...

Oh Rebecca, I am so teary eyed... what a beautiful gramma...and so very wise. I love seeing the photos of you, your mama, your sister and your gramma all together, and little Miss K too... I'm sure she visited you last night... it was not a dream... xoxo Julie Marie

Tristan Robin Blakeman said...

lovely story and memories.

your coffee table carving reminds me of my six-year-old directing debut of a backyard production of Alice in Wonderland, in which I painted my mother's pedestal table like a huge mushroom for the caterpillar to sit on.

she chased me with more than a flyswatter, as I recall.

Anonymous said...

What a touching post about your grandmother and you! I know from your talks about her on your blog how special she was to you.
Loved the photos....what a lovely family you have, Rebecca...such generations of beautiful women!
And if they are all like YOU in generosity of spirit and loving ways, then what a Blessing God has given you.......
I loved my grandmother that way, too....she lived to be 84 years old and I used to love to spent time with her, too....I often wish
she were still here so my children
could know her, too.
Thanks for a walk down memory lane
today.....warm sweet hugs, Francy

Dolores said...

I really needed this wonderful advice today..... thank you for sharing these beautiful pictures and this loving post.
You are blessed with these wonderful memories of your grandmother.....and then your dream....
Hugs!

Lisa said...

Your Gramma was a wise woman whose advice we should all heed. Thanks for a beautiful post!

VMcreation-fashion-studio-atelier said...

Oh,dear Rebecca!-)*

Just a wonderful post,you story touched me so much,my dear Friend...
These photos are beautiful and you kind words I like it !!!

Thank you very,very much for sharing,
Much Love and blessings to you,Rebecca!-)))*
***Violetta***

Ceekay- Thinkin of Home said...

Your grandma was very wise. I love this....

June said...

I can feel the love you have for her in every word Rebecca. I am sure that you miss her very much, but you also know that she is with you everyday of your life, and what a comfort that is to those of us who have lost our dear one's company. Your pictures of her are all so dear.
hugs

Anonymous said...

Hi, Rebecca! I recently discovered your blog and just love it. You have inspired me to start back on some projects that have been in limbo for quite some time. I love this lovely mirror! I have one much like it that I want to redo. Concerning the Behr's Cottage White Paint--so you use latex, water base, or oil base paint?
Thanks so much.
Another Rebecca who used to live in the charming little town of Checotah

Rebecca said...

To: Rebecca Who USE TO LIVE in the charming little town of Checotah... :)

I use regular latex paint. I actually LOVE the cottage white color. Good paint is good paint and if you want you can have the color "Cottage White" mixed at Lowe's using Valspar Signature Paint (also in latex). It's a common color and I like this paint equally as well! : Less $$$ too!

Happy painting! So glad you wrote!

xoRebecca

Mollye said...

Oh honey, how blessed you were and the way I see it is you were NOT dreaming. Your sweet gramma paid you a little visit while you were sleeping and gave you this loving message. So what's there to think about. Mind your grandma!!!!! Someday is HERE. Luv ya sister, Mollye

Deanna said...

Blessings to you, Rebecca!
This is a great post. I love what your Gramma said to you in your dream.
Truth.
d from homehaven

ginny said...

Hooray for your grandma! My sentiments exactly....why wait? Catch your dreams while you can still enjoy them...beautiful post Rebecca.

Tanza said...

Hi Sweet ~r~,
Very Sweet, TRUE words by your Gramma .. Isn't it funny how we become soo much wiser with years .. we need to live by her words .. I KNOW I have learned that some things matter, and soo many things don't !! I'm just trying to sort through it all !! I'm almost at the top of the hill(remember)and, I can sure see alot .. thanks for the inspiring words of wisdom .. Hoping your day is a wonderful one ~
huggers ~tea~xo

myletterstoemily said...

thank you for a precious piece on your
grandmother. such great advice.

no more 'somedays'!

i dream about my grandmother, too,
and awaken feeling like she was really
just there.

blessings,
lea

nonnie said...

How perfectly sweet and touching. We can miss the moments so easily. Thank you for that story!

{Bellamere Cottage} said...

LOVED that post....the pictures with your sweet family and your Grandmother's words of wisdom. Holy cow....she sure was right, wasn't she?

Huggies,
Spencer

Margie said...

Wonderfully sweet post! I love my grandma soo much! God Bless Grandmas for all the things they teach us girls :)
Lots of Blessings! ~ Margie

Ginger said...

Grandmas are so special. I had two wondeful grandmothers whom I miss soooo much. Your grandmother looks so sweet and such good advice I think many of us should listen to. I am always the conservative, what if, kind of person and wish I were more of the go ahead and do it kind!!!

Hugs
Ginger

Rita said...

What a wise grandmother you had. I once had my grandmother in my home for a time and I am so glad that I did. When I was a little girl, she taught me to sew and to crochet. How I treasure those memories and now that I am older, I hope I can take your grandmother's advice!

Miss Gracie's House said...

ahh, how sweet...aren't you thankful that you had such good times and precious memories...my best childhood memories incl my GM...love how your chairs are turning out and oh my...I woulda snatched up that frame in a second!
xo,
rene'

Sares said...

Thank you for sharing your beautiful Grandmother with us. There is such a special bond between a Grandmother and a Grandaughter, as you are now learning from a Nana's perspective!

Anonymous said...

Smart woman, she knows what she is talking about. So nice of you to share your Grandmother.

Jeannie B. said...

What a lovely post. I love the pictures of all of you together.

You were a cute baby!!

Lucy said...

Wonderful philosophy to use immediately, not someday...Thanks:-)

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